|When will they ever learn?
||[Aug. 31st, 2006|12:18 pm]
|[||Feelin' a bit
|||||Oh Dry Thy Glistinig Tear||]|
In life sometimes we come upon a person that we just feel connected to. The attraction, the chemistry, it's all there. The crush turns into a like and somtimes, the like turns into love. Wam! A realtionship.
But what happens when the trust of the relationship is violated? What then? Being cheated on is a very hurtful thing. Having been the victim of this myself I can identify with others on this one. So your partner cheats. Do you take them back, forgive them? Or kick them out on there hinney?
I say get rid of 'em. Taking them back is only enableing them to do it more. I recently had a friend of mine break up with his girlfriend after he took her back hte first time she cheated on him. In my opinion BIG MISTAKE! Now that he has broken up with her for good I think he is better off. Sure now hes sad and still loves her but I know, with time, it heals.
So what would you do? Love em or leave em?
I say leave him. I chose my new screen name for a reason. Being True to yourself is the ONLY way to ensure a happy relationship. Even when I was with Sami, well, after the bliss quickly faded, I began seeing it for what it was-er wasn't. If you take the person back knowing deep down that you don't desire them well, you only risk hurting them more, and more deeply then you ever could breaking up with them orginally. You my dear are wise beyound your year to be learning this now! Enjoy your 20's, be smart and have your youth! Don't worry about marriage/kids yet, have fun, be young and drink Pepsi! M'lady.
I, like you, have been in this situation, and it's never a pretty one. And a good percentage of the time, it doesn't end pretty, either. I've always looked at the person who is cheating as suffering from some sort of disorder, and one that is extremely harmful and painful for others. It's an easy one to restrain, but it just takes thinking with your mind, and not your "down there's".
I often look back at The Vagina Monologues, and read the monologue titled "Hair". The woman delivering the monologue is very forward about her husband who cheated on her, and her outlook on that. If you have yet to read it, I can forward the monologue to you via email.
But, yes, I will, forever forward, leave the ass hole who cheats on me. That's just me, though. Love or not, I have enough respect for myself to not put up with that.